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Your life is all around one person and a breakup changes everything. Now your mind is now totally crushed with the taught of what to do after a breakup. This is the time when you probably make wrong decisions which blemish your happiness. To stop mindless vandalism in your life, don‘t do below things instantly after a breakup.
After a breakup, the love who gave you immense happiness gives you deep cuts on your heart. You are inconsolable to breathe the positive vibes again.
But It’s completely ok not to be resilient for some time as moving on after a breakup becomes hard and it takes time. So before taking some immediate actions let’s lookout which things you never have to do after a breakup:
Things you never have to do after a breakup
- Stalking your Ex
You never let go of your past by keeping an eye your boyfriend/girlfriend’s relationship status. You have to leave this habit to recover from the current panic state.
You might not control your urge to check what my ex is doing? Is he/she hanging out with another person? This will create a great anxiety issue and depression for sure.
2. Pretend to be friends
It’s a trend to remain just friends with your ex. The concept is really deep but you never be into friendship after a breakup so quickly. Staying in the same circle of friends who invite your ex might cause a situation that you meet him more. But don’t try to be in a hurry to be friends or fake it like you really don’t care.
Don’t try to force yourself to meet your ex just to impress your friends. You need not to do this right now. Make a distance with your ex till the time you feel you really let go of your past.
3. Visit places where you spent time together
In the past, you hang out at places like bar, restaurant, theaters together so these places give you a memory of a beautiful past. You are going again to feel it again that how good it was which keep growing sadness in your heart.
So never go to places where you dive into your past after a breakup.
4. Got a new look
You have soreness in your heart and this is not the right time to take any decision.
Some people advice you have a new look but be cautious. Never do a haircut or tattoo immediately after a breakup which you will regret in the long run.
5. Blaming Yourself
Why he or she left me? Am I not beautiful like his new girlfriend? Finding fault in yourself is the biggest mistake you are doing after a breakup.
Girls who don’t have a boyfriend are happy too. So you can analyze the current situation but should not blame yourself for all of this.
The fault may be of both or one but never compare yourself. People who leave us always teach us a lesson, so look forward to learning than drowning into your own thoughts.
Remember “ Put Yourself as a FIRST priority”
6. Having a revenge thought
Emotional pain after a breakup may give you revenge thought. You can feel good for a short time after doing this. The broken heart will never be fixed up by revenge.
It can heal by love, compassion, and forgiveness. The act of revenge never gives you happiness. So let karma do it for you and you just move on to a new chapter of your life.
7. Start Dating so soon
You start looking for new love and immediately start dating after a breakup which is dangerous for you.
Start dating again so soon after a breakup increases chances to make it happen again. Give some time to yourself to forget and forgive your painful past.
8. Keep making yourself upset
You are indulging yourself into constant grief. Listening to sad songs, watching tragic romantic movies, keep thinking about pasts are some things you don’t have to do after a breakup.
Instead, you have to try to make yourself happy. Go and visit some new places, join some activity classes, pamper yourself to boost your mood up. You need to cheer up yourself rather than just crying and pitying yourself after a breakup. Let the positive vibes come in.
9. Dragging yourself into a new addiction
Alcohol, anti-depression pills or drugs are not solutions. You are dragging yourself in danger so never do this after a breakup.
Instead, try to develop some healthy habits so that you can improve yourself. Work on yourself. Keep pushing yourself to make things better than escaping.
10. Making a wall around yourself
You start making a distance with your near ones. You are not making connections anymore and shut all the hopes to recover – a self-harming act.
The reason is you don’t want to hurt again. But the magic of hope is, it comes out when all doors are closed.
So never create a big wall around yourself that you missed the true love coming for you.
11. Take it all alone
You are not sharing your feeling with anyone which you don’t have to do after a breakup. The wounds on the heart are never be healed if you take it all alone.
Keep talking about what you feel to your friends or family. Allow yourself to cry and grief about the unhappy incidences. Let it all negativity and sadness come out.
I hope you heard this term so many time “ It’s okay to not be okay”. You can be caught into some serious mental health issues if you suppress your pain for a long time. Before it goes worse you can consult a therapist for the same if you don’t have someone to share.
This Content has originally written by Arti Yadav and published on Mar 26, 2019. No Copyright/IPR breach is intended.
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